You know of late, everyone around me is either married, or planning a wedding, or announcing an engagement, things are happening for people.
Sometimes things like that put us in a state of thinking, Is something the matter with me? And then there these people who think they have figured out the whole equation of love, family, happiness, who tend to sit you down and try to tell you, Lady, its about time, the years are passing by.
Very many people have different theories about Marriage, when the right time is, what age you should get married, when you should have kids, etc. But my question is, Is there a pre-planned age of when one finds the right one? Or maybe not the right one, but the one that will be the person you spend the rest of your life with?
I think what I understand in my humble opinion is that everyone experiences Love when it comes to them. For the ladies out there who may be stuck up in the same circle of friends, trying to tell you, its now or never, I have got news for you.
I believe in Love, and I believe I will experience it when it comes, but am not going to search for it, it comes when it comes and you know it's true love when you are in it!
So all these stories of, you got to be married in your 20's and then by 35 you are supposed to have given birth to all your babies, and then sit down and wait to die, don't rock it for me.
Ladies, live your freakin lives like you have never before, enjoy every moment, live in the moment, rock them' dresses and high heels, go out, party, trust God and hey, before you know it, things will happen. All am saying is, there is no pre- defined formula for finding love. Just because your friend married at 20, and they feel its right, that is them, do not let them stuck it up to you to do the same.
I love my life, OMG, I can't even begin to tell you how much! But you know what, am living in the moment, doing what I got to do, and when that time comes, I will live that moment too.
And I want all the ladies out there to embrace that!
So, like Ngugi wa Thiong'o wrote "I will marry when I want".